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25 – There are good people out there

Hey Mama. This is Mama’s Daily Dose. I’m Meghan Q Barrett of allyoumama.com. Mamas Daily Dose is…”There are good people out there.” Let’s get moving before we get interrupted.
  
So I have to say I’m in the middle of recording this week’s podcast. And this was going to be a completely different podcast than what it is right now. But I went outside to let my cat in and on my doorstep was my wallet. And I didn’t even know I lost my wallet. And it was just sitting there on my doorstep. And I go back, and I look at my ring. And there’s some woman that I have no idea who she is, that dropped my wallet off on my front porch. I do not even know when I lost it. Maybe it came out at the park, maybe it was in my driveway. I have no idea when I lost it. But whoever this woman is, she just saved me a ton of time, and stress and anxiousness. And it was just a beautiful thing to know that there really are some amazing people out there. Sometimes we focus way too much on the negative and all the bad things that are going on in the world when there are some really awesome people that will drive to your house and drop off your wallet. So whomever you are. Thank you. Thank you so much. 
 
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Interview – Pre & Postnatal Exercise with The Bump Protocol (Meredith Whitney)

0:11  – Meghan
Hey Mama, welcome to this special episode of Mama’s Daily Dose, the interviews. This is actually my very first interview that I did with Meredith Whitney of the bump protocol. In the all you mama interviews, so this is also posted to YouTube, but I wanted to share it here with y’all. Meredith is a pre and postnatal corrective exercise specialist and diastasis and core consultant, which is quite a bit to say, but basically, she helps women through all stages of life, pregnancy, postpartum motherhood and beyond. We talk about some really cool things in this episode, including how she started the Bump Protocol with a bottle of Rose. And we talked about if it’s too late to fix your core and pelvic floor, because I received questions from women with kids up to age 10 if it’s just too late for them to basically stop peeing themselves. And then last but not least, we debunk some of the conflicting advice that you receive when you’re both pregnant and postpartum. So enjoy the interview.

1:32  – Meghan
Hey, Mama, friends, and welcome to the All You Mama Interviews where we bring experts in their field directly to you. I am Meghan Q Barrett of allyoumama.com. And I certainly don’t have all the answers, but I do know people that do. And our first expert that we have coming on today is Meredith Whitney, and Meredith is a pre and postnatal corrective exercise specialist and diastasis, and core consultant. Basically, she helps women stay fit throughout all stages of life, pregnancy, birth, postpartum motherhood and beyond. Welcome, Meredith,

2:13  – Meredith
Thank you so much for having me. So excited to see you in sort of real person, but not…

2:21 – Meghan
I’m super excited to see you. And I’m so excited to learn more about the Bump Protocol and what you’re doing to help women, I have quite a few questions of my own, as well as some questions from some mamas in All You Mama. So, I’m just going to hop right in it. And tell me a little bit more about what you do with the Bump Protocol. And what made you create it.

2:47   – Meredith
So I was joking around with one of the other coaches because I was looking at your questions this morning. And I giggled, because I actually created this one evening, after having an awesome conversation with my business coach, and a bottle of Rose. And I just started drinking, like, I’m just gonna do it, I’m gonna start this program and I finished a bottle and and then like, in two or three hours, I had everything set out. The programs started when I started taking on more of a full time role at Seven Mile. And the clients that I was bringing on, were either postpartum or newly pregnant and had not told anyone. And my interest grew really quickly with, you know what to do with pregnant females what to do in terms of recovery, with postpartum females coming back to the gym, and learning all these functional movements and sort of spiraled from there. I’m quite interested in, in this field. So I jumped into a specialty course, and sort of started from that. And when I was close to finishing the specialty course, that’s when I started getting some ideas about what I really wanted to offer at the gym. And it ended up being a small group program for either females who were planning on conceiving or currently pregnant, or females who had just given birth or were in their fourth trimester at some point in trying to figure out how to get back into fitness. And the program that I run is something that females can do continuously throughout their pregnancy and postpartum. There’s no waiting period. There are things that we would keep an eye on, if there were any things that a doctor may have suggested, you know, maybe we shouldn’t be doing this but all the movements and the breathing patterns would be safe leading right up until you give birth and day one postpartum.

5:01 – Meghan 
I have to say, I have a three and a half year old and one and a half year old. And I feel like the information has changed so much even from having my three and a half year old where there’s so much conflicting advice. I had one midwife tell me, I couldn’t CrossFit at 12 weeks, and then the next time I go in at 16 weeks, they’re like, Oh, no, you can CrossFit, you’ve been doing that. So how, how are you kind of that bridge betwen? How do women know what they should and shouldn’t do?

5:34   – Meredith
It’s a really good question, I actually tried to stay away from what you should and shouldn’t do, because each female is completely unique in their selves in their experiences and how fit they are and what they do and their regular day. So what I do is I try to actually bridge that gap, that gap between someone who is pregnant and their doctor saying, you know, you should start working on pelvic floor exercises, or, you know, you need to start walking versus a CrossFit athlete, or someone who does F45 or Orange Theory. I bridge that gap so that they come into my class. You’re doing breath work, which is the most important, we’re focusing on pelvic floor exercises. And then that gap sort of comes in between the strength training and your endurance or interval training where you know, someone might be able to do a squat with weight, where someone is just learning that squat. So I take a very individualistic approach where I have a workout set for them. And I have progressions of different challenges for each person, depending on where they are in their fitness.

6:46 – Meghan 
Awesome. Yeah, I think that’s a great way to approach it. Because, I mean, I had come from basically being a competitive athlete, you know, off of that, to becoming pregnant, and I felt so lost…like I don’t even think I’d really heard about “coning” until maybe I almost gave birth. Can you explain “coning” and what is the reasoning behind that?

7:13  – Meredith
Sure. So you know, coning can happen to people who aren’t pregnant as well, it can happen to males as well. But generally, what you have is, in the front of your body, you’ve got this long line called your in the linea Alba and on either side is your abdominal muscles called your rectus abdominus. And those can sometimes become more dominant, when our other muscles aren’t working in synchrony or not working properly. And so generally, what you’ll see is in, you know, in CrossFit, we brace a lot when we’re trying to do a heavy lift. And you’ll see with these pregnant females, that they’re trying to brace to protect themselves to do certain movements. So that bracing and bracing over time is going to put a lot of pressure on your abdomen. There’s an offset of pressure in your abdomen that places pressure on that linea Alba and the rectus. And it sort of starts to stretch, and then you’re sort of pressing it out. So you can see that a really simple way to test that out is if you’re about to do a set up. And all you want to do is just sort of crunch your shoulders and your head towards that situp, position. And then you can see a little bit of coning sometimes. So we do try to prevent that in my class. And we also try to get your internal abdominal muscles like your transverse abdominus and obliques working in synchrony, so that doesn’t happen so that your front, ab muscles don’t take over and your inner core is actually working properly.

8:53 – Meghan 
That is like the best explanation I’ve heard. I’ve just heard, “don’t do anything that makes coning.”

8:59 – Meredith
Yeah, I really try to stay away from the do’s and don’ts and I want people to feel confident and empowered that they can still do something that they love. I have a client who has been training her butt off to be in the CrossFit Games. And she found out during this training, that she was pregnant. And so we pivoted really really quickly. And I can see her having this internal fight with herself and that competitiveness and that ego and then you know, I want to do kipping pull ups and I want to do I still want to do sit ups so we’ve made minor adjustments so that she can slowly progress into something that is allows her to be more aware of her body and have a positive experience without just saying okay, you can’t do sit ups anymore. You can’t do toes to bar anymore. So It’s been a really eye opening journey for myself. And I know for her too, because she has, to set her ego aside. But she’s learning a lot in this journey as well.

10:12 – Meghan 
I feel that on many levels. Okay, so I’m going to pivot a little bit away from the pregnancy and go more postpartum/motherhood. I got this question from ranges in Mamas, from ones that have three year olds all the way up to like 15 years old. And it was a question on, what is there and what can you do for your pelvic floor and your core…when you’re that far postpartum?

10:43  – Meredith
That’s a really good question. And I personally believe that there is no wrong time to get started on pelvic floor work. If it’s something that you missed out on when you were pregnant, or even if you’re a regular gym goer, without a child like myself, it’s something that you can slowly bring in to your practice and daily practice. And it’s something that I get a lot of my clients at the gym to just do five minutes a day. So very simple breathing exercise exercises that, again, focus on that inner core. So I’ve got this inner core. So we’re we’ve got our diaphragm, which is our major breathing myself, we’ve got our pelvic floor, so diaphragm up here, pelvic floor down there, and then we’ve got our abdominal muscles that sort of fill that canister, and we’re working on that, that canister for abdominal pressure and fluid breathing. And so that’s the first thing that I would say to these mamas to start working on is just diaphragmatic breathing, core control breath. So a little bit more active breath where you have a nice, relaxed inhale, and then that exhale, you sort of tried to gather that abdomen together, almost like someone’s tying a scarf around you, that would be the first step that I would suggest to them. And then slowly adding some really simple pelvic floor exercises in so imagine that you need to stop yourself from peeing or pooping, and then that gentle squeeze, and then a gentle release, and those gentle squeeze and release exercises that you do for maybe a minute a day, if that will start to make you a little bit more aware of what’s going on down there. And that helps a lot.

12:20 – Meghan 
Awesome. And then, do you do this iin your small groups to work on these breathing exercises and everything to?

12:30 – Meredith 
Yes we do. So the first five to 15 minutes of our class is focused on breath work, and minor movements with breath work as well as pelvic floor specific exercises.

12:43 – Meghan
And then for those that don’t know, I probably should have said this too, Meredith is located in Grand Cayman. So for those listening that probably don’t have access directly to you, do you have like some resources for them to check out to?

13:00 – Meredith 
Yes, absolutely. So I do offer online personal training as well. The course that I did my certification through is called Fit for Birth. And if you Google that, you can actually go on to their website, and they have a coach located all across the world. So you’re able to sort of connect with these coaches all across the world. And there may even be one in a certain location that you’re looking for, that have similar training that you know, they may not have the same background as me, they may be a Pilates instructor, a yoga instructor, a Chiro or Physio, lots of different backgrounds with that specific pelvic floor training. The other thing that all these mamas can look into, is looking for a women’s health physiotherapist or practitioners specifically in your area. There is a lot of women’s health practitioners that I’ve been following on Instagram that put out great content. But if you are someone who has maybe practiced pelvic floor work, or you don’t really know where to start to get into a pelvic floor specialist would be my first piece of advice because they can do internal exams as well. And so if you don’t know what’s happening on the outside, they may be able to tell you what’s going on on the inside and sort of guide you that way too.

14:31 – Meghan 
Yeah, that’s great advice. I know after I had my first son, I think I waited till like seven or eight months postpartum, but I was like, Huh, I want to make sure that I’m doing this right. So, just having someone to check that and then I went a few times and got some exercises and was able to do it on my own, but just making sure that you’re doing it correctly.

14:56 – Meredith
Yes. And so I have a couple of friends down here that were in similar situations as you where… a late start to some pelvic floor exercises as well. And again, there’s no time than the present to start practicing this stuff. So if you’re one of those people that sort of hasn’t started and scared to start, go online, find some really good resources, someone in your area to help you. And just keep going with it. Because sometimes it’s just a matter of telling your brain “Okay, I’m going to squeeze here, I’m going to relax,” even if you don’t feel anything, those that brain is making some sort of muscular connection for you too.

15:34 – Meghan 
So I bet there’s a bunch of women watching this right now that just started their pelvic floor exercises toe while they’re watching this!

15:43 – Meredith 
squeeze and release!

15:45 – Meghan
I feel like I should be doing it right now.

15:49 – Meredith 
It’s so important. I was speaking with one of the physiotherapists, who helps me in my programs, we actually chatted about it last week with the ladies is that, even if you think that you’re doing all of the right things over time, as we age, whether we have kids or not, things might not sit like they used to. So it’s really important to keep practicing, keep practicing the strengthening and relaxation of your pelvic floor as well, because some people are overactive and other people are under active. So we need to find that happy medium.

16:24 – Meghan 
Yes. Awesome. That is great advice. Okay, so here’s another question that I got from another range of mamas. It was how to how should you approach getting back into working out. And I got this from, I believe there was a running, CrossFit, and then yoga in there too. So we got a whole range of workouts.

16:45 – Meredith 
Okay, that is a really good question a very important one as well. And you want to make sure that whatever you do you feel comfortable with the movements in your own body. So the way that my program runs for postpartum specifically is you can have your baby and the next day you can get into my classes, so long as you feel comfortable. I do really like having the doctors on board, I think that’s really important that they understand the exercise program that it’s not just going back into heavy lifting or running that there’s some sort of progressive building of your muscles. But again, the first thing that I would say to these ladies, wherever they are, whether it’s yoga, Pilates CrossFit, running, swimming is that you make sure that you are getting some core control, some abdominal control, and you’re synchronizing that with your pelvic floor work. So actually, what I’ll do is I’ll send you my YouTube clip of my breathing exercises so that you can share it with whomever you want, so that you have an idea of what I’m talking about. Yeah, but gentle movements, movements with fluid breath, like bending over hinging. For instance, say, you’re bending over to pick something off of the floor, just knowing that maybe an inhale down, and an exhale up sort of keeps you safer and movements. But I’m a true believer that you shouldn’t be waiting until your doctor clears you at six, eight weeks, whatever it is, there needs to be something that you’re doing at home. There’s lots of things that you can do at home that sort of build that tolerance and put you in a more optimal position to returning to whatever whatever it is that you’d like to do.

18:31 – Meghan 
Yeah, I think there’s, I don’t know not misnomer. I don’t know what the word is, but that, you’re just supposed to sit there for six weeks until your doctor says okay, you can go. And then, okay, I can go do what then? You know what I mean? Like I’m not I’m not gonna go in the gym and start back squatting the weight I was squatting,

18:54 – Meredith 
No, because your organs might fall out!

18:56 – Meghan 
Exactly. So, you just don’t have a lot of direction that it’s like, okay, I go from doing  nothing to go ahead! Yeah. So do you have some guidance on building that up?

19:09 – Meredith 
And that’s where someone like a pre and postnatal exercise specialists like myself comes in handy, or someone that you trust, that can help guide you. There are people that can get back into their regular routine earlier and feel good about it with no obstacles, but not everyone is like that. So it is nice to be able to have some sort of transition period, whether it is you know, postpartum to six weeks, or maybe it’s someone who’s been a year postpartum and is now ready to go back and do strength training or yoga or Pilates or whatever, you know, there. You can’t just jump back into it. If you have a knee surgery or a shoulder surgery. The last thing that the physiotherapist or doctor recommends is for you to say okay, you just had your surgery, you’ve got your two week clearance, go Have fun, let’s do some pull ups and push ups, they’re not going to tell you that. You’ll probably have physio, you’ll probably have a bunch of bands at home and all of these exercises to do and so that’s how I treat postpartum is that this is your gentle way of getting back to do what you love safely and efficiently.

20:19 – Meghan 
Awesome, I love that gentle way to get back to what you love. You need to write that one down. That is good. Okay, so I had posted about this on my Instagram and I got so many women that were like “mind blown” which mine is too, because I need you to tell me about this tailoring your workouts around your menstrual cycle. And what it looks like, I am beyond interested…

20:48 – Meredith 
So I am brand new to this. And by no means an expert. And I’m sure you’ve heard the book, beyond the pill by Dr. Brighton. So that one I’m actually just reading now, it wasn’t my first book, but I now have it in my room reading it. And I’m not promoting this book for a paid advertisement or any true interest here. It’s called “In The Flo” by Alyssa Vitti. And it’s just a really eye opening book. I have a list of people who want to borrow this, but they don’t know that they’re never gonna get my copy. But I probably just order thema copy.

21:28 – Meghan
I do the same thing I do that I keep I don’t have like here, I’m just gonna you buy one.

21:32 – Meredith 
Yeah, I don’t want to let it go. Now she has a lot of things online that you can purchase. But the book was just enough for me to get started. So the reason why I got started was when we got back into the gym in July, I was doing all this high intensity work. And I was feeling great, right? My hormones were high, I was having fun, no more at home workouts. And then in September, when everything regulated, I just started getting really tired and I was tired of just go go go workout workout workout. So I switched my programming to a strength training program. But during that time, I had quite a few of my female clients who either messaged me to say they wouldn’t be in the gym for a week, or said that they didn’t want to do the certain week workout that had been programmed for them. And it took a couple weeks for me to figure out what was going on. And then I have these females saying, Oh, I was on my period, I didn’t want to come into the gym, I was feeling really tired. Or Yeah, I just didn’t really want to do the running workout. Because I was on my period, I sort of just wanted to do yoga or something. I said, Okay, let’s start talking about this, let’s figure out what’s going to work best for you. So we started to slow things down closer to their period, and they were in the gym more consistently. So the book comes into my life a couple months ago, I start reading it, and essentially it just breaks down your period. So the first thing is that you have two cycles that are happening on your female body circadian rhythm. You don’t really think that. For us it sort of breaks down the four pieces of your cycle. And when you should be doing more higher intensity workouts versus thinking about strength training, or, you know, stretching, walking, and it doesn’t specifically talk about CrossFit or F45 or orange theory, but it sort of gives you an idea of what you should be looking at. So in the last month, I followed along the book I followed along a little bit of the nutrition guidelines, sort of what types of meats to eat, when what types of vegetables to eat when so I’m getting my micronutrients. And I’ve been pretty level for the past couple of months and and weeks doing this. So it’s really cool. I highly recommend the book. I actually just finished my menses so I am back to higher intensity workouts but the past two weeks, I’ve just been doing strength training, really low intensity, and it’s been great.

24:25 – Meghan 
That’s awesome. I feel I naturally do that. Even with my with the workouts like that. I’m like, Okay, well, I’m going to do it, but  I’m just here today. You know what I mean? Thats the five days of my period. It’s like I’m here today, I need to do something. But I’m by no means going to PR at all.

24:48 – Meredith
Yeah. But I think that if we sit down and look at that type of stuff and really become more aware of what’s happening with our bodies, we realize this is why I don’t feel like PRing today or maybe that’s why you didn’t PR one day in a back squat, you know, it potentially could be because of the different variety of hormone levels in your body and your body saying no, no, now is the time to just relax and have a little bit of fun. And next week, energy is high. Okay, let’s hit this PR.

25:20 – Meghan 
I love that I’m definitely gonna have to look into that more.

25:23 – Meredith 
Yes, you should. It’s been really eye opening, I can’t talk enough good things about the book. Very cool. I’m not even halfway through either.

25:34 – Meghan 
We’ll have to talk again, once you get it all in there. Alright, so we’re going to start closing up. And I’m going to ask this question to all my experts. And what is one piece of advice you’ve received that changed you or your life?

25:50 – Meredith 
So I’ve been thinking about this. And the first thing that came to mind, which was just really solidified, what I’m doing now is to take risks and to just run with it. So if you have an idea, or something that you’re truly passionate about, and you’re humming and hawing, sometimes you just need to jump over that fence and see what happens.

26:15 – Meghan 
Sometimes you just need to drink that bottle of Rose. Right? I know I love that. That’s one of the things I say all the time to the All You Mamas is that any action is better than no action. You could be doing the wrong thing. But you are still moving forward. And that is way more important than staying stagnant.

26:34 – Meredith 
Absolutely. I completely agree with that. Meghan.

26:37 – Meghan 
Awesome. Well, I love this and I love chatting with you. I had a great time. If you guys want to check out Meredith. Check her out. It’s @thebumpprotocol on Instagram. Anywhere else you want them to check you out.

26:52 – Meredith 
No, that has everything it links to a Google form if they want to be on my mailing list. I don’t email a lot, but just some important things. Instagram is the big one.

27:04 – Meghan  
Awesome. I will link the Instagram too so you guys can check it out. But once again, it’s the bump protocol. And thank you so much, Meredith. And all you mamas have a great day free of mama guilt, you deserve it.

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She’s helped Mamas all over the world to unleash their confidence, reach their goals and no longer feel isolated in their mama journey.

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24 – “Children Are Apt to Live Up to What You Believe of Them” – Lady Bird Johnson

Hey, Mama, this is Mama’s daily dose. I’m Meghan Q Barrett of allyoumama.com. Mamas Daily Dose is… a quote from Lady Bird Johnson, “Children are apt to live up to what you believe of them.” Let’s get moving, before we get interrupted.

Children are still growing in all aspects of their life. And they look to us for guidance. And, you know, they’ll pretty much believe most of what we say, most kids, you know, believe in the man in the red suit for a long time. And that’s because we have instilled that in them. And what we believe to be true, tends to come true as well.

On a smaller scale, maybe think about a day that you were just like, oh, man, you know, it started off with your kid in a bad mood, and you’re just like, this kid. He’s in a bad mood today. And that’s how it is. And then that’s basically how it is the rest of the day, right? But there could be another day where you’re like, Hey, dude, you are being such a great helper, and you’re really helping me out. And you’re just so happy today. And then they are, because that is what you believed. And that is what you were projecting on to your children as well.

On a larger scale, if we believe in our children, and we really instill in them that, “hey, you can do anything that you want to do,” then they grow up with this belief that they can, they can try hard and they can achieve things. Or we can believe in them and be like, “Hey, dude, you’re a little too short for basketball. Maybe you should try something else.” Do you think that kid’s going to try basketball? Probably not. So take a look at what you are projecting to your children in your beliefs. What do you really believe about your children? And what do you want to believe about your children so that they will believe that about themselves.

If you want to work on your beliefs, and the beliefs that you are instilling in your children, make sure you sign up for the TDQ newsletter. That’s my own personal newsletter I send out every Thursday. So if you missed it this Thursday, that’s cool. It’s every Thursday here after sign up at allyoumama.com and have a great day free of mama guilt because you deserve it.

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23 – Who are you?

Hey, Mama. This is Mama’s Daily Dose. I’m Meghan Q Barrett of allyoumama.com. Mamas Daily Dose is … “who are you?” Let’s get moving, before we get interrupted.

My son loves to make friends. Anytime we go to the park, he’ll seek someone out, basically follow them around for a while and just latch on and start playing. And I told him, I said, “Hey, why don’t you ask them what their name is.” And so the way he started asking people is he would just go up to them and say, “Who are you?” And I was like, dude, that’s a deep question. So naturally, it gets me thinking like, Who are you? Who am I?

Like, how do we describe ourselves? We usually say, what our titles are, and what we’ve done in the past, but does that like really encompass who we are? Yes, being a mom and being a wife and being a podcaster and a coach, that’s part of me, but is that really who I am? And I don’t know if I can fully answer this question right now. I am figuring it out. And I want to figure it out. But the cool thing I think about it is, is that you get to create it. Right? Who you are is not what you’ve done in the past, who you are is who you want to be. And you can be whoever you want. And you can change that. And you can keep changing that as many times as you want. If you don’t like who you are, or what you’re doing right now then change it. Last year at this time, I really did not like who I was and how I was showing up. And it took me a while to make that change. But just realizing that I had that power to make that change, and create and decide who I am. That’s big. And the next part is figuring out how to answer that question. Who are you?

While we both ponder who we are, make sure you sign up for my newsletter. I send it out tomorrow morning, every Thursday. It is the TDQ. I give you something to think about something to do, and a quote. It’s the shortest, most effective newsletter just for Mamas. So head on over to allyoumama.com and get signed up so it’ll be right there for you tomorrow morning. And have a great day free of mama guilt because you deserve it.

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22 – Summer must haves

Hey Mama. This is Mama’s Daily Dose. I’m Meghan Q Barrett of allyoumama.com. Summer is in full swing. So, today on Mama’s Daile Dose, we are talking about summer must haves. Let’s get moving, before we get interrupted.

When it comes to summer, we can get bogged down with so many things for our kids. I remember one of the first beach trips that we took with our one son and some friends, we packed everything the first day, we had like a little pool, we had a bunch of beach chairs, we had all these toys, and we didn’t even use any of them. So the next day, we’re down there with like one chair, and a couple towels and life was much easier.

So when it comes to kids, usually less is more. And it also makes your life a heck of a lot easier. But I do have three things I want to share with you as far as some are must haves.

One is a water table. I absolutely love our water table. It lives out on our deck. And we’ve had it since my oldest son was just about one. So since both of my kids could stand, they absolutely love this water table. My oldest is almost four and still plays with it every day, even in the dead of winter, he’s out there playing with the water table. So that is definitely number one. Number two is popsicles. You know those like cheap ice pops that you buy and they’re the liquid and you put them in the freezer, we used to have them as kids and they come in those bright colors. Well they make them all organic and juice 100% juice and all that stuff if you want those too. But they’re on my list because they are a great bribe in the summer and I am not above bribing my children at all. It is very difficult to get them to leave the pool or some activity and I’m always like hey, let’s get home and get a popsicle. And number three on my list is a travel size thing of sunscreen to leave in your bag, diaper bag, whatever it is that you take everywhere. And it’s more for yourself than your kids, because I always find that I remember to put sunscreen on my kids, but I always forget to get it on myself. So having that just in case of emergency because it is come in handy many many times. I’m sure there’s a bunch more we could add to the list but as I said, less is more and I tried to leave my diaper bag as light as possible.

Have a fabulous summer and stay cool out there. I want to know what some of your summer must haves are. Share with me on Instagram @MeghanQBarrett, that’s Meghan with an H and have a great day free of mama guilt because you deserve it.

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21 – You have NO idea what is up with other people

Hey Mama, Happy Monday, and I hope you had a wonderful Fourth of July weekend. And if it’s still going, keep having fun. This is Mama’s Daily Dose. I’m Meghan Q Barrett of allyoumama.com. Mama’s Daily Dose is… “you have no idea what’s up with other people.” Let’s get moving, before we get interrupted. 

We’re all basically living in our own worlds in our own minds, we’re all focused on what we need to do to take care of ourselves, to take care of our immediate family and what is important to us. And no matter how much you think you know, about another person; we will never fully understand because we can’t really get in someone else’s mind. I mean, even with our kids.

I can totally know what they’re going to say next, or I can anticipate their needs. But I don’t fully know what’s going on in their mind all the time. I look at my almost four year old now in the car, and he just like stares out the window. Like he’s really thinking of something. And I always say I wish I knew what was going through his mind right now.

But I also have an excellent story. That happened a couple Monday’s ago that exemplifies the fact that we have no idea what’s going on with other people. And I had a bit of a rough morning, I’m trying to leave, go to the gym, I’ve already driven back to the house like three times to get something that was forgotten, and I start driving out again. And my three year old goes, Oh, I forgot my purse, and he has this little purse that he loves that has his money, and keys and a ball and other random things in there. And he just he starts losing it in the car. So I stopped the car, I go in the turn lane, and I have my hazards on on this relatively busy road. And then I go to turn around. And as I was turning, I saw a bike coming up the hill. And it was totally my fault. I had gone in front of him. We weren’t in any danger of a collision, but it was definitely my fault. And I rolled down the window and I was just like, I am so sorry. And this guy looked me straight in the eyes and just goes, “F you, f you” and just start screaming. And I’m like, I’m I’m really sorry, it was my fault. I take full responsibility for the fact that it was my fault. And he bikes on still swearing and things like that. 

And what I realized was, he had no idea what was going on in the car with me and my kids and what had happened before that situation and I have no idea what happened with him before that situation too. Maybe he did almost just get killed by another car. Maybe he had an argument with his spouse, who knows what was going through his mind, I have no idea. So this whole situation just basically proves that we really will never know the full story of someone else. We can only see what we can see. So have some compassion for people because we have no idea what they’re going through. And the same thing with them. They have no idea what we’re going through. 

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20 – Get your penis off my table

Hey Mama. This is Mama’s Daily Dose. I’m Meghan Q Barrett of allyoumama.com. Mamas Daily Dose is…. “things I never thought I would say until I became a mom – ‘Get your penis off my table.’ ” Let’s get moving, before we get interrupted.

If you’re anything like me, I’m sure you have a long list of things that you never thought you would say until you had children and “get your penis off my table is definitely at the top of my list.” When I was potty training, my first son, Anderson, and we did you know, one of those naked methods where he’s naked for a couple days to learn.

And he was having a snack at the table and he was just, standing there going back and forth on my table. And I just looked at him square in the eyes and was like, “dude, get your penis off my table.” And I have to say, I never imagined myself saying that phrase, but here we are. That’s what happens when you become a Mama.

Hey, I want to hear some of those funny phrases that you never thought that you would say until you became a mama. Share them on my Instagram @MeghanQBarrett. That’s Meghan with an H. And have a great Fourth of July weekend, celebrate and have fun and be safe out there. And have a great day free of mama guilt because you deserve it.

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19 – Are you in the 8%

Hey Mama. This is Mama’s Daily Dose. I’m Meghan Q Barrett of allyoumama.com. Happy July. I love July because not only is summer amazing, but it is also my birthday month. Mama’s Daily Dose is.. “Are you in the 8%?” Let’s get moving, before we get interrupted.

Today is July 1, and officially tomorrow, July 2, is halfway through the year. So believe it or not, we are halfway through 2021. This is a great time to kind of look back on your New Year’s resolutions or your goals that you set for this year.

The Are you in the 8% refers to only 7 to 8% of people actually stick to their new year’s resolutions and achieve their goals. 80% of people give up by the second week in February, so about six weeks into the year, the far majority of people have already given up. Now is a great time to re evaluate. If you set a new year’s resolution or goals, take a look at it. Have your priorities changed? Do you need to change the goal? Are you working towards your goal? Do you need to reach a little bit higher? And if you didn’t set any new year’s resolutions or goals, that’s cool. Sit down right now and think about what you want to achieve before the end of the year. If you don’t have a goal in mind, a written goal, then you don’t know where you’re going. You’re basically driving around aimlessly, without any directions on where to go.

Very few people achieve their goals for a multitude of reasons. So do you want to be part of the large majority of people? Or do you want to be part of that 8%? It’s all up to you Mama.

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18 – Wear the short shorts

Hey Mama. This is Mama’s Daily Dose. I’m Meghan Q Barrett of allyoumama.com. Happy Hump Day. And speaking of humps, Mamas Daily Dose is… “Wear the short shorts.” Let’s get moving before we get interrupted.

Let’s be honest, after kids, our bodies certainly change and I feel like we’re more hyper aware of our bodies, and also have a bit more of an appreciation for what our bodies can do. Before children. I always worked out in leggings, I did not like to show my legs off, I have cellulite. They’re a bit bigger. And I always had chub rub. Not to mention my thighs tend to like eat shorts, so they would just always ride up anyways. 

But then I got to the point where I lived in these climates like Cayman Islands and Abu Dhabi where it’s just not possible to be wearing leggings and be even remotely comfortable. I’m not gonna lie, it took me a little while to feel comfortable in the shorts because any change takes a little while to get used to. Fast forward a few years. And pretty much all I wear in the summer are short shorts. Because once again, if they’re longer shorts, my thighs are just going to eat them anyways so we might as well start where they’re gonna end up. Find your comfort level where what makes you comfortable. If it’s leggings, stick with the leggings. If it’s longer shorts, go with the longer shorts if it’s short shorts, rock em. All I know is tomorrow is the first of July and in North Carolina it’s getting hot here, so I care a lot less what I look like and more about my comfort.

Stay cool and comfortable out there Mamas. If you are enjoying this podcast as always share with all of your mama friends and have a great day free mama guilt because you deserve it.

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17 – Normalize Doing Nothing When Someone Else is Responsible for Your Kids

Hey Mama. This is Mama’s Daily Dose. I’m Meghan Q Barrett of allyoumama.com. Mamas Daily Dose is… “normalize doing nothing when someone else is responsible for your kids.” Let’s get moving before we get interrupted.

Yesterday, I talked about a babysitter as an investment, and being able to use that time for whatever it is that you want to do. But I think a big part about a babysitter, too, is normalizing doing absolutely nothing when someone else is responsible for your kids.

I know personally, if I have time away from my kids, and someone else is watching them, I feel like I just need to get crap done, I need to catch up on the laundry, I got to get all the dishes done, I need to clean the kitchen, I need to do this podcast, whatever it is, or I need to, you know, go on a romantic date night with my husband and we need to make it worth it. Because you know, we have just these two hours to ourselves, when in reality, I mean, those things are nice, and they’re definitely needed at times. 

But it’s also needed to just sit there and do nothing, to just recharge. Just because you get this time away from your children doesn’t mean that you have to be the most productive and you have to “make it worth it.” You need to do what you need in that time. And sometimes that is just sitting there. 

There have been times when the babysitter’s come and I just sat in the chair for 10 to 15 minutes and just zoned out. And that was some of the best times I’ve ever had when the babysitter is watching the kids. So, next time someone’s responsible for your kids. Don’t feel like you have to do anything. Do what works for you.

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