Happy quote, Thursday, and this quote came from a conversation I had with a friend, and I’m not gonna lie, I wasn’t super emotional until the past couple years, like, I couldn’t even really label most of my emotions, and I didn’t enjoy talking about my emotions. But there’s something about being a mom, and your children, bringing out these emotions in you, and showing these things to you that you may not want to deal with…but kind of need to. And Mama’s Daily Dose is… “Kids have a way of taking everything, you swept under the rug for that for a lifetime, and pulling it out and saying, ‘here it is, look what I found.'” Let’s get moving. Before we get interrupted.
You know, those difficult emotions or situations or experiences that you weren’t, like, totally ready to process, you may not really want to look at them, and you’ve just like, swept them under the rug for decades? And you continue to do so. And then all of a sudden, your kid’s like, “Hey, look at this under the rug, Mom, look at this!” I mean, it’s like your kids can’t even find their missing shoe, but they find all of these emotions and traumas that you’ve never dealt with. And now you’re staring face to face with them, while you’re still looking for that damn shoe!
And kids just have this way of pointing out the emotions, and the memories that we have stuffed way down and tried to avoid. Really, there is no bigger mirror of you and your life than your children. And we all have these emotional traumas, they come in all shapes and sizes. And there are ranges of traumas. The best definition I’ve heard of trauma is anything that leaves you saying, “What the f just happened?” And everyone is worthy of healing. Your trauma may not be as “traumatic” as another’s. But nonetheless, it can wreak havoc on your life if you keep brushing it under the rug, and trying to avoid it. And then your kid keeps saying, “Hey, Mommy, Mommy, look at this, look at this, you should probably deal with this… look at it.” And you’re like, “No, no, let’s put that back under.” And they’re like, “Ah, here you go.”
And you don’t need to compare. We’ve all been through something in our lives. And we are all worthy of healing and support. And you are worthy of healing and support. You are worthy of taking those things out from under the rug and dealing with them in a way that is healthy for you and your children.
Mama, your action today is to look at your kids, and what do they keep pulling out from under that rug? Because once again, the biggest mirrors in our life are our kids. Has your kid ever said something or done something you’re like, oh my gosh, that’s me. That’s where they learned it from. And if they are consistently pulling out that same thing from under the rug, it may be time to take a look at it. And if you need that support and you need that help to process through it. Once again, take a look at Postpartum Support International or contact a local mental health professional that can help you through that. And have a great day free of mama guilt because you deserve it.
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Meghan Q Barrett is Mom Success Coach and Connector who helps mamas create a life they love as “mom” AND an individual without the mom guilt. She connects mamas from all around the world so you can share your stories in a safe, supportive space.
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