Mama last week, we talked a little bit about the “what if” culture and constantly going down that rabbit hole of “what if” And there’s another one that you hear a lot when you’re a mom, and you’ve probably said it too: “better safe than sorry.” But what if “Better safe than sorry,” really isn’t safer. And Mama’s Daily Dose is a Monday, MamAffirmation: I know there are risks, and I choose to live my life. Let’s get moving before we get interrupted.
Better safe than sorry? I know I’ve said it. You’ve probably said it, or at least heard someone say it. But what if that better safe than sorry, really isn’t safer, because then you are focusing on all the risks around you, rather than focusing on living your life. And yes, there are risks, there are some serious risks around us. But if you focus all of your time, and energy on those risks, you’re missing out, on really living your life.
There are so many risks out there, that we could spend all day, every day, analyzing the risks, and what could happen. In the book, “Ordinary Insanity” they talk about how moms are focused so much on the risks, and it’s really ingrained in us in culture, to look at the risks starting with pregnancy. You’re worrying about Turkey, about salmonella about riding in a car, what exercises you should and shouldn’t do. And they cite journalist Dan Gardner in his book, “The Science of Fear.” And he says, “If an independent thinker really wishes to form entirely independent judgments about the risks we face in daily life, or even just those we hear about in the news, he or she will have to obtain multiple university degrees, quit his or her job and do absolutely nothing but read all about the ways he or she may die until he or she is actually dead.”
Yes, there are risks. There are bad things that can happen. But do you want to spend your time and energy analyzing each and every one of those risks? Or do you want to live your life and not just choose to live your life, but enjoy life? I know there are risks AND I choose to live my life.
Mama, your action today is to repeat the MamAffirmaiton: I know there are risks AND I choose to live my life. You are acknowledging that yes, there are risks. The world is a little scary out there. But is that where you want to focus your energy? Or do you want to focus your energy on enjoying life and enjoying what you have right now and what is to come? And have a great day free of mama guilt because you deserve it.
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Meghan Q Barrett is Mom Success Coach and Connector who helps mamas create a life they love as “mom” AND an individual without the mom guilt. She connects mamas from all around the world so you can share your stories in a safe, supportive space.
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