Mama’s Daily Dose is… a quote from Dr. Dennis Kimbro, in his book: The Wealth Choice, Success Secrets of Black Millionaires, “The most common mistake we make is looking outside of ourselves for what we can only find within.” Let’s get moving, before we get interrupted.
You know, when you have to make a big choice in life, and you don’t know what to do, so you start asking everybody around you? A big one here is schools, there’s like so many options of schools – there’s public schools, there’s private schools, there’s church schools, there’s magnet, there’s charter, there’s homeschool, there’s just like all these options, so you don’t know what to do. So you start asking everyone else, you ask your partner, like, “hey, what do you think?” You ask all the other moms, “Hey, what do you think? What do you guys do?” And you go on Facebook, and those moms groups and search all over you say, “hey, what do you think of this school? Is this school better? What do you think of that school? What should I do? I have no idea.”
And you’re looking to all these other people, for the answers that really only lie within you. And a lot of times we look to other people for answers, because we don’t want to take on the responsibility of ourselves. Because it’s like, dude, if I picked the wrong school for my kid, and it didn’t work out, that’s a lot of guilt on me. But if Susie told me, it was a great school, and she’s like, “Oh, my kid loves it there!” And I choose that school, then, I mean, then I can just blame Susie, if it doesn’t work out.
But really, you know, the answer. Most of the times when we go to our friends or our family, when we have questions for them or we’re trying to make a choice – we really know the answer. You have that intuition. You have that sixth sense, but we’re looking for that validation. And I’m here to tell you, you don’t need that validation. You don’t need those outside sources. You have the answers. You can trust yourself, you are a trustworthy source, because you know you the best. And when it comes to decisions of your children right now, you know your children the best outside of them, you know them the best. So trust yourself, when you have questions to ask others. Instead of looking to those outside sources First, look inside, look inside to yourself. Trust yourself, trust your intuition.
Mama, your action today is to pose a question to yourself something that you would normally go ask your friends or some family members. And it can be as simple as like, “what color should I paint this wall?” Or “where should I send my kids to school?” Any range in there. And instead of asking someone else, sit there for a couple moments and ask yourself, see what answers come up. See what thoughts and what feelings come up because you mama are the most trustworthy source that you will encounter. And have a great day free of mama guilt because you deserve it.
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Meghan Q Barrett is Mom Success Coach who helps mamas figure their sh*t out so they can create a life they love as “mom” AND an individual without the mom guilt.
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